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Walk by the Bay

BOMBAY AT DAWN

BOMBAY AT DAWN

An amaranthine city leaving its mark amatively. City of dreams now may sound old, yet it’s a city that never sleeps. I like to call “Bombay” more than “Mumbai. The charm of South Bombay is mesmerizing. You may love the new developments in Mumbai, yet, there’s love for old buildings in South Bombay. Malls are overrated, it still can’t beat the feel of walk by the bay, especially early morning. Food Court puts forth a range of platter, satisfaction comes over “chana zor garam”  (masala beaten grams) or “Bhutta” (roasted corns) and a “cycle chai” at the Nariman Point.

Experience the early morning walk by the bay as we did on Saturday Morning and see the diversity of Bombay. View of Bombay’s famous necklace at the dawn, clear sky, flock of birds flying, dog relaxing at nariman point. Roads are empty. A part of road is blocked for kids to skate. Parking is in ample. Busy city seems less quiet, but not passive. People in Bombay are into some different world. You experience a flip side of them. They are not someone who are dressed up and ready to go office. Not in hurry. Some are just there to sit around the Arabian sea, some are jogging, some are exercising, some are doing yoga, someone is doing Surya Namaskar, some people are meditating, someone is supporting old-age with the wheel chair, many have a morning walk with their pets, Couples having a chit-chat, group of people gossiping over a local chai. Faraway in the sea, en-number of fishing boats are visible. I like to call its regional name “Naiya with his Khivaiya”. It also reminds me of a song,

“Chal kheva re kheva re naiya kheva, machli hai sagar ka meva…..” 😀 Hope you all have heard the song as this is not so famous or common. 😛

Marine Drive or Nariman Point (whatever you may like to call) is where Mumbaikars come for a few moments of freedom from the stresses of commuting, of high living costs, of cramped homes. It is a place that breathes possibility. Bollywood filmmakers have long exploited its majestic arc to show Bombay as a city that sets you free. Young couples turn their backs on the world, cuddling and kissing, unmindful of the throngs behind them, throngs who generally leave them alone. In claustrophobic Mumbai, where privacy of any kind is at a premium, Marine Drive affords anonymity. Here, at least, Bombay lets lovers be; in any other Indian city they would be routinely disturbed and harassed.

In such moments, what is missed is travelling in open double-decker bus. 😀

Recollecting few things I heard, Amitabh Bachchan would recall the time when he slept on a Marine Drive bench at night. Years later, many of his films were shot here. In one, Muqaddar Ka Sikandar, he rode a motorcycle down the road, rakishly dressed and singing with abandon. It was a statement of having finally arrived, proof that having made it in Bombay you can make it anywhere. After all, as the song from the 1956 film C.I.D. goes:

“Ae dil hai mushkil jeena yahan, zara hatke, zara bachke yeh hai Bombay meri jaan.”

(Oh my heart, it’s very difficult to live here, be careful and be warned, this is Bombay, my love.)

The song subsequently became the de facto anthem of this tough metropolis.

The three-kilometre stretch along the waterfront extends from Nariman Point to Chowpatty, disappearing into Walkeshwar and, beyond that, tony Malabar Hill. The famous Art Deco, buildings, however, run only along about one third of the drive; after them come the gymkhanas with their open cricket fields, followed by a run-down aquarium, a modern tower block that is a hostel for female students, and at the far end, Wilson College, built in 1889 in the Victorian Gothic style. I have always been in love with this Victorian Gothic style construction of Wilson college.

This 3km stretch has been giving me mu space and time to make tough decisions of my life. Every time I am crossroads, coming here early morning or late night, makes me listen to my heart. Sound of waves brings me peace. I find myself lost amidst endless abundance nature of vast ocean. Love the smell of sea.

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Making… Friendship

I read somewhere. Its easy to make friends. It needs a bit of “MEHNAT” to maintain that friendship.

I read somewhere, you may have or may not have friends in life….  but “ZINDAGI MEIN JAAN PHOOKHTI HAI DOSTI”.

I heard somewhere, “Har ek friend kamina hota hai” but “Har ek friend zaroori hota hai”.

I saw in dil chahta hai movie, without your friends there is something missing in your life.. no matter how best or amazing it is.. you still miss your buddies and the time that you spend with them.. even after 10 years of gap…. you can be you in front of them.

Chai ke liye jaise toast hota hai
Vaise har ek friend zaroori hota hai
Aise har ek friend zaroori hota hai

Koi subha paanch baje neend se jagaaye
Koi raat ko teen baje jaan bachaye
Ek teri kadki mein sharing kare
Aur ek tere budget me sneak in kare
Koi nature se guest koi host hota hai
Par har ek friend zaroori hota hai

Ek ghadi ghadi kaam aaye par kabhi kabhi call kare
Aur ek kabhi kabhi kaam aaye aur ghadi ghadi call kare

Gossip ka koi ghoomta phirta satellite
Koi saayh rahe to karde sab alright
Koi effortless, koi forced hota hai
Lekin har ek friend zaroori hota hai

Chat room friend
Koi classrom friend
Koi bike pe race wala wroom wroom friend
Shopping mall wala shopping friend
Koi exam hall wala copying friend

Movie buddy… grooviee buddy
Hi buddy… bye buddy
Joke buddy…. coke buddy
Gana buddy…. shana buddy
Chaddi buddy… yaarrr buddy…

Kuttey…. kaminey…
Everybody… sab buddy…
A to Z

Gin gin ke naam bheja roast hota hai…
Lekin har ek friend zaroori hota hai..
Every friend has a different flavor… enjoy and cherish each flavor.

Frientimacy: intimacy between friends

Sitting in that circle of friends was powerful. There is nothing like being seen by friends you love and who love you back. Intimacy is a word that just brings up too much of misunderstanding sometimes in friendship so I call it “Frientimacy.”

Frientimacy Is Authentic
We listened as one shared that’s she not sure she wants to stay married. Another, found out her husband cheated. And another just broke up with the man she wanted. One is trying to decide if she wants kids. Another is due next month. Another just found out her baby isn’t developing on schedule. Another isn’t sure she’ll find someone to marry before she has that choice. Another is struggling with weight and another with financial security and still another with contentment. We shared our pains and disappointments.

We also listened as we went around the room sharing 3 things we celebrate about our lives in the last year. It was spectacular: The risks. The wins. The accomplishments. The completions. The new beginnings. The Ph.D, the new baby, the new business, the new office, the new love. The big anniversary.

It was beautiful to be among friends who have history sharing both. These are beautiful, amazing, professional, intelligent people who live life fully and are committed to truthful friendships.

Frientimacy is Awkward
And while it sounds so good to be honest, I’d be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge how hard it can be go there.

We are far from being a homogeneous group: some married, some single, some divorced, some with kids, some with none. Through the years many us have traded those roles-the married one becomes single and the single finds her love. Often at the same time. And we have to celebrate one and grieve the other. It is hard being the first or only in the group to have kids, and equally hard to be the last or only to not be in a relationship.

Even with people we love and respect, there is no way to be friends without bringing our personal insecurities, fears and baggage to the relationship. To hold their pain without projecting our story into it.

There were definitely awkward moments. Moments where you want to judge, give advice, justify your decision that’s different than theirs, wallow in self-pity rather than giving a high-five.

But we’ve practiced. We’ve made commitments to be generous with each other. Honest. We trust the commitment is bigger than the pain. We trust the history is deeper than the present moment. And we’re still practicing.

We forge on. There will be lots of awkward moments we will witness and hold.

Frientimacy is Developed
We can only trust our future because we’ve experienced our history. It wasn’t instant.

It was due to consistency that we have fostered this.

A decade ago, we were mostly strangers to each other. And over time, with one leaving here and another joining there, we had a group that was consistent. We didn’t all necessarily feel like we would be friends with each individual in the group if it weren’t for the collective time, but we knew the value of going deeper with others so we kept coming.

What we celebrate now has taken effort. It has taken consistency. Far more than most people are willing to put in. Most of us think if we get together once a month with a new friend that a friendship will blossom. And I’d say once a month is enough to keep liking each other, but probably not enough to build enough history that when your lives change (and they will) that you have enough history behind you to stay connected through it. Once a week for one year gave us the gift we’ll enjoy the rest of our lives.

I no longer live around people so I’ve become part of another group of people who meet at different frequencies. We don’t have the same history yet, but we will keep meeting and keep sharing and we are definitely developing our own new Frientimacy.

Who are you being consistent with? How can you schedule in some consistent time with other women? How are you building upon the new friendships you’ve started?

Frientimacy is Worth it
You may not feel the potential after your first time together. Or your next time together.

You may doubt it. You may feel like they’re too different from you. Or that you’re not sure you like each of them.

You may feel insecure around one of them or find that one annoys you. It’s likely.

But you will also begin to know you have a group that sees your life. That knows it. That you don’t have to update but can simply share. You will feel the difference it makes to have close friends. Local friends. Not the kind you have to impress, but the kind you get to be real with. It’s likely.

I had an amazing weekend with the people who have known me and loved me for years of my student life. And I’m committed to building more of that in my life.

Frientimacy is authentic. It can be awkward. It takes time to develop. But it is so worth it.

Loving Treatment

Deep at the centre of my being there is an infinite well of love.

I now allow this love to flow to the surface.

It fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness, my very being, and radiates out from me in all directions and returns to me multiplied.

The more love I use and give, the more I have to give, the supply is endless.

The use of love makes me feel good; it is an expression of my inner joy.

Yes, I love myself, therefore I take loving care of my body.

I lovingly feed it nourishing food and beverages.

I lovingly groom it and dress it and my body lovingly responds to me with vibrant health and energy.

I love myself, therefore I provide for myself a comfortable home, one that fills all my needs and is a pleasure to be in.

I fill the rooms with the vibration of love so that all who enter, myself included, will feel this love and be nourished by it.

I love myself, therefore I work at a job that I truly enjoy doing, one that uses all my talents and abilities, working with and for people that I love and love me, and earning a good income.

I love myself, therefore, I behave in a loving way to all people for I know that that which I give out returns to me multiplied.

I only attract loving people in my world for they are a mirror of what I am.

I love myself, therefore I forgive and totally release the past and all past experiences and I am free.

I love myself, therefore I love totally in the now, experiencing each moment as good and knowing that my future is bright, and joyous and secure, for I am a beloved child of the universe and the universe lovingly takes care of me now and forever more.

And so it is.

Louise L. Hay

THE FOUR CANDLES!!!

The four candles burn slowly
The ambiance was so soft you could hear them talking.
The first on said
“I AM PEACE!
However no can keep me lit,
I believe i will go out”
Its flame rapidly diminishes and goes out completely.
The second one said
” I AM FAITH!
Most of all, i am no
Longer indispensable,
So it doesn’t make any sense
That i stay lit any longer.”
When it finished talking, a breeze softly blew on it putting it out.

Sadly, the third spoke in its turn
“I AM LOVE
I have got the strength
To stay lit. people put me aside
And don’t understand my importance.
They even forget to love those
Who are nearest to them.”
And waiting no longer it goes out.

Suddenly…
A child enters the room and sees three candles no burning
” why are you not burning?
You are suppose to stay lit
Till the end.”
Saying this the child begins to cry..

Then the fourth candle said
” don’t be afraid while i am
Still burning
We can relight the other candles,
I AM HOPE! ”
With shining eyes, the child took the candle of hope and lit the other candles.
The flame of hope should never go out from your life and that each of us can maintain HOPE, FAITH, PEACE and LOVE!

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