March 2013

Co-incidence

“Am at the right place at the right time and doing things for my highest good”

Yesterday, somebody recommended me to read Amish Tripathi’s trilogy. I was hesitant about it as am very picky about reading. There are very few books which capture my attention and am eager to complete that book. I thought let me consider buying his books. And before buying, I started reading about Amish Tripathi on internet and review about his books. I read various internet articles on it… and to a surprise… am eager to read his books now. I don’t know what it is!! But would like to share some points that really asked me to go for reading these books.

1. 20 publishers rejected his 1st book and after that he stopped counting. And it was surprisingly hit.
2. He is from the field of finance before he became a writer.
3. He always wanted to be a historian, and never thought of being in the field of finance.

And somewhere in these 3 points i could connect myself to his world. Am very keen to write books. In fact, I have already completed first few chapters of one book, which is a fiction. Already have 2 more ideas to write a book. I am from the IT field, even i always wanted to be a historian and never thought i would ever be in IT. For me history is the most interesting thing in life. When i say history, its not just knowing what happened in the past in the “X” part of the world. It’s understanding people then, understanding the culture then, how each culture is different today then what it was earlier and with different other cultures… To me its like understanding one (human / culture / circumstances / situation, etc) at completely different level and in depth!

For eg:

In India, we typically call our gods ‘devas,’ and demons ‘asuras,’ a fact any Hindi-speaking native would be well aware of. Zoroastrian Persians refer to their gods as ‘ahuras’ and demons as ‘daevas,’ the opposite of the Indian pantheon.
What if the ancient Indians and the ancient Persians had met? Perhaps they would be calling one another evil because one civilization’s god would be the other’s demon, and vice-versa. Who would be right?’
The answer is, neither. They’re just two different ways of life.

Isn’t this part of history amazing? Does this change the meaning of history for you.

Currently, am reading “Talibanization of Pakistan” and it gives me complete different picture of the terror than what is being telecasted in the news channel.

History is such an amazing subject to understand. Coz it deals with real people, real situations and real episodes in each part of the world. Today will become history tomorrow.

I still remember, when i was in jr. college, my history teacher would tell our group, “you all should go for history debate”!!

Am so glad: “Am at the right place at the right time and doing things for my highest good”

The Katkari Tribes!

This video is a project of T.Y. BMM students of NK college, topic cultural studies!
Shot in Virar where a small group of Katkari tribes reside in slums.
Beautiful one, these kids are doing wonderful job!
They are now all set to bid farewell to college life. Wish all of them a “All the best” for their future.

Frientimacy: intimacy between friends

Sitting in that circle of friends was powerful. There is nothing like being seen by friends you love and who love you back. Intimacy is a word that just brings up too much of misunderstanding sometimes in friendship so I call it “Frientimacy.”

Frientimacy Is Authentic
We listened as one shared that’s she not sure she wants to stay married. Another, found out her husband cheated. And another just broke up with the man she wanted. One is trying to decide if she wants kids. Another is due next month. Another just found out her baby isn’t developing on schedule. Another isn’t sure she’ll find someone to marry before she has that choice. Another is struggling with weight and another with financial security and still another with contentment. We shared our pains and disappointments.

We also listened as we went around the room sharing 3 things we celebrate about our lives in the last year. It was spectacular: The risks. The wins. The accomplishments. The completions. The new beginnings. The Ph.D, the new baby, the new business, the new office, the new love. The big anniversary.

It was beautiful to be among friends who have history sharing both. These are beautiful, amazing, professional, intelligent people who live life fully and are committed to truthful friendships.

Frientimacy is Awkward
And while it sounds so good to be honest, I’d be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge how hard it can be go there.

We are far from being a homogeneous group: some married, some single, some divorced, some with kids, some with none. Through the years many us have traded those roles-the married one becomes single and the single finds her love. Often at the same time. And we have to celebrate one and grieve the other. It is hard being the first or only in the group to have kids, and equally hard to be the last or only to not be in a relationship.

Even with people we love and respect, there is no way to be friends without bringing our personal insecurities, fears and baggage to the relationship. To hold their pain without projecting our story into it.

There were definitely awkward moments. Moments where you want to judge, give advice, justify your decision that’s different than theirs, wallow in self-pity rather than giving a high-five.

But we’ve practiced. We’ve made commitments to be generous with each other. Honest. We trust the commitment is bigger than the pain. We trust the history is deeper than the present moment. And we’re still practicing.

We forge on. There will be lots of awkward moments we will witness and hold.

Frientimacy is Developed
We can only trust our future because we’ve experienced our history. It wasn’t instant.

It was due to consistency that we have fostered this.

A decade ago, we were mostly strangers to each other. And over time, with one leaving here and another joining there, we had a group that was consistent. We didn’t all necessarily feel like we would be friends with each individual in the group if it weren’t for the collective time, but we knew the value of going deeper with others so we kept coming.

What we celebrate now has taken effort. It has taken consistency. Far more than most people are willing to put in. Most of us think if we get together once a month with a new friend that a friendship will blossom. And I’d say once a month is enough to keep liking each other, but probably not enough to build enough history that when your lives change (and they will) that you have enough history behind you to stay connected through it. Once a week for one year gave us the gift we’ll enjoy the rest of our lives.

I no longer live around people so I’ve become part of another group of people who meet at different frequencies. We don’t have the same history yet, but we will keep meeting and keep sharing and we are definitely developing our own new Frientimacy.

Who are you being consistent with? How can you schedule in some consistent time with other women? How are you building upon the new friendships you’ve started?

Frientimacy is Worth it
You may not feel the potential after your first time together. Or your next time together.

You may doubt it. You may feel like they’re too different from you. Or that you’re not sure you like each of them.

You may feel insecure around one of them or find that one annoys you. It’s likely.

But you will also begin to know you have a group that sees your life. That knows it. That you don’t have to update but can simply share. You will feel the difference it makes to have close friends. Local friends. Not the kind you have to impress, but the kind you get to be real with. It’s likely.

I had an amazing weekend with the people who have known me and loved me for years of my student life. And I’m committed to building more of that in my life.

Frientimacy is authentic. It can be awkward. It takes time to develop. But it is so worth it.

What is Intimate friends

Intimate friends share their most
personal thoughts and feelings.
They trust each other to keep personal secrets,
and they use each other as a safe base
for exploring issues and problems that
they may not discuss with anyone else
– including parents, teachers or close siblings.
Intimacy and self-disclosure distinguish
best friends from other friends.

Loving Treatment

Deep at the centre of my being there is an infinite well of love.

I now allow this love to flow to the surface.

It fills my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness, my very being, and radiates out from me in all directions and returns to me multiplied.

The more love I use and give, the more I have to give, the supply is endless.

The use of love makes me feel good; it is an expression of my inner joy.

Yes, I love myself, therefore I take loving care of my body.

I lovingly feed it nourishing food and beverages.

I lovingly groom it and dress it and my body lovingly responds to me with vibrant health and energy.

I love myself, therefore I provide for myself a comfortable home, one that fills all my needs and is a pleasure to be in.

I fill the rooms with the vibration of love so that all who enter, myself included, will feel this love and be nourished by it.

I love myself, therefore I work at a job that I truly enjoy doing, one that uses all my talents and abilities, working with and for people that I love and love me, and earning a good income.

I love myself, therefore, I behave in a loving way to all people for I know that that which I give out returns to me multiplied.

I only attract loving people in my world for they are a mirror of what I am.

I love myself, therefore I forgive and totally release the past and all past experiences and I am free.

I love myself, therefore I love totally in the now, experiencing each moment as good and knowing that my future is bright, and joyous and secure, for I am a beloved child of the universe and the universe lovingly takes care of me now and forever more.

And so it is.

Louise L. Hay

U Me aur Hum

Apne Rang Gawaen Bin, Mere Rang Mein Ghul Jaao
Apne Rang Gawaen Bin, Mere Rang Mein Ghul Jaao
Apni Dhoop Bujhaye Bin, Meri Chhaon Mein Aa Jao

O Chalo Yun Kare,
Tum, Tum Bhi Raho, Main, Main Bhi Rahoon
Hum, Hum Bhi Rahein
Tum, Tum Bhi Raho, Main, Main Bhi Rahoon
Hum, Hum Bhi Rahein
Teeno Mil Ke Saath Chale
Saathi Janam Janam, U Me Aur Hum.
U Me Aur Hum, U Me Aur Hum.

Apne Rang Gawaen Bin, Mere Rang Mein Ghul Jao
Apni Dhoop Bujhaye Bin, Meri Chhao Mein Aa Jao

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