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A STORY OF APPRECIATION !!!

A young academically excellent person went to apply for a Managerial positioning a big company.

He passed the first interview; the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth’s academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, “Did you obtain any scholarships in school?” the youth answered “none”.

The director asked, “Was it your father who paid for your school fees?” The youth answered, “My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, “Where did your mother work?” The youth answered, “My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, “Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?” The youth answered, “Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, “I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother’s hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back,he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother’s hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother’s hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future. After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time. Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth’s eyes, asked: ” Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?”

The youth answered, ” I cleaned my mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes’

The Director asked, ” please tell me your feelings.” The youth said, -Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today.

  • Number 2, by working together and helping my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.
  • Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, “This is what I am looking for to be my manager. I want to recruit a person

  • Who can appreciate the help of others, a person
  • who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, -and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life.

You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company’s performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted,…-would develop “entitlement mentality” and would always put himself first.

  • He would be ignorant of his parent’s efforts.
  • When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others.
  • For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more.

If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV.
-But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. -After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters.
It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.

Life is something that happens when u are planning something else !!!!

Beautiful Everything…….An Attitude !!!!

Usually we subconsciously overlook the blessings in our life. We become so busy with our daily complaint checklist, that we need a constant reminder from any source to count our merits. We crib about waking up early, the boring job, the demanding boss,the workplace,Life not treating us well,how god is unfair & does not responds to our appeals ( Plz mind,God is not a cosmic bell boy for whom we can press a button to get things done ) and many a things in our life which does not satisfy our soul and leaves us discontent.

I am no exception to this human psychology either, i feel the same stuff everyday, if things doesn’t happen or appear as i wish, i crib,sulk & curse my life, my creator,my circumstances and i use every possible probability to blame, and you know what, it makes me feel more terrible & awful and our tendency is to stretch this state of mind for a fairly longer time.
But, only if things & situations favour us or something happens as per our desire then we rejoice, we feel lucky we celebrate, make a general statement “I thank you God ” and move on, that’s it !!!!. And after a while we come back to our basics to the original mode of dissatisfaction. We don’t stretch this happiness quotient for a longer time, its short term & plain momentary. Human psyche i guess !!!!!!!

So after reengineering my thought process, i came to an agreement with myself, that i would count my blessings each day and remind myself to look and cautiously look at the good things in my life or of my existence. Few of them i have jotted down which are very very common in all of our lives.

1) Waking up every morning listening to mom’s voice ( Gods grace )
2) Breakfast time ( mom made, real yummm !!!! )
3) Listening music while commuting to office, ( blessed to afford an mp3).
4) Feeling the breeze on my face, ( proof that my senses are healthy )
5) Chatting with my boss and colleagues ( lucky me )
6) Sitting at my workstation,checking mails,planning the agenda ( i am employed & have work )
7) Meeting my colleagues, ( variety of colorful humans )
8) Eating lunch & snacks & the junks, (opportunities to share)
9) Never ending discussion about job, life, problems, happiness etc etc. ( hopes to keep life moving )
10 Etc Etc Etc Etc………………..

Everyday i mange to spend some time with few of my close friends whether on the phone or personally and feel sanctification. They add energy, blush,tint & worth to my life. Family ,friends,colleagues ,people around you,animals ,birds trees add value to your personality, caliber & experience, that’s so wonderful. Just imagine for a while your life without them, dull, boring ,plain and lonely, just you you and only you. What are you gonna do with yourself all the time, just imagine it for real…………No one to talk to, relate to, blame to (kidding!!!!), discuss to, share to and for so many things.

Our family adds strength to our life,
Friends add brightness,
An enemy adds valor
A partner adds love & warmth
Employment adds confidence & hope
Technology adds convenience
Good work adds confidence, & optimism
Mistakes add experience
Mother nature adds faith in the creator,
Animals & birds add kindness
Trees & soil add perseverance,
Difficulties add patience & courage
Opportunities add spirit & enthusiasm
Unfortunate people around add generosity
Fortunate people add vigor
Democracy adds freedom
Difficult & complex people add tolerance
Cheerful people add color

So you see there is more add and less minus in our lives but, only if you think so, otherwise there’s everything yet nothing.
Whenever you’re in conflict with someone or something, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging it and deepening it. That factor is attitude.”

You spend life anyway you wish, but you only spend it once.

The Last Lecture – Randy Pausch

Randy Pausch was a professor of Computer Science, Human Computer Interaction, and Design at Carnegie Mellon University ,H e died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book ‘The last lecture” before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind …

In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan, and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful “guide to a better life” for his wife and children to follow.
May you be blessed by his insight.

POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE

Personality:
1. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don’t have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don’t over do; keep your limits
4. Don’t take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don’t hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Community:
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.

While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with,
people you play with, people you work with and people you live with.
Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.

Life’s Struggles

A man found a cocoon of an emperor moth. He took it home so that he could watch the moth come out of the cocoon. On the day a small opening appeared, he sat and watched the moth for several hours as the moth struggled to force the body through that little hole.

Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther. It just seemed to be stuck. Then the man, in his kindness, decided to help the moth, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The moth then
emerged easily.

But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the moth because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the little moth spent the rest of its life
crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the moth to get through the tiny opening was the way of forcing fluid from the body of the moth into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon. Freedom and flight would only come after the struggle. By depriving the moth of a struggle, he deprived the moth of health.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If we were to go through our life without any obstacles, we would be crippled.

We would not be as strong as what we could have been. Give every opportunity a chance, leave no room for regrets.

Small decisions

The small decisions have a big influence on your life because you make so many of them, all day, every day. The small decisions are the ones that keep you focused and moving ahead.

Sure, the big decisions, that you pay a lot of attention to, will set the direction for your life. However, the small decisions are what deliver and maintain that direction.

Small decisions come so fast and so frequently that you can’t possibly have time to think through each one. That’s why the way to effectively take positive control of those small decisions is to develop positive habits.

Instead of thinking through each small decision, program those decisions into your behavior. Instead of being constantly tempted to wander away from the path you’ve chosen, make it your second nature to keep yourself positively focused on what really matters.

Get all the powerful small decisions working in your favor by making them into solid, repeating habits. Invest in creating positive habits in your life, and your investment will continue to pay valuable dividends each day.

Every moment is a choice. Create powerful, positive habits for yourself and all those choices will lead you precisely where you wish to go.

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